Why are you asking me for advice if you have no intention of taking it?

Leading a horse to water (free clip art)

Leading a horse to water (free clip art)

Over the years I have found that I have a lot of friends and relatives that come to me and ask me for advice. At first I was flattered. After all, I felt validated that they thought so much of me that they would seek my counsel! But then I have found, that most of the time, they have not actually followed my advice! I find out when the decision that they made (contrary to my advice) ended badly, and they were suffering uncomfortable consequences from their decisions.

Finding the strength to avoid saying “Why didn’t you follow my advice?” and “I warned you!” takes a lot of effort! I am starting to feel that when people ask me for advice, I should ask them why are they seeking my advice now when they have never taken it before! I wonder what their answer to that question would be!

Nobody really listens to me

hello (free clip art)

hello (free clip art)

A very long time ago I came to realize that nobody ever really listens to me. Whenever I see someone while I’m at work, or out shopping, or answer the phone, and they ask “how are you?” If I say “I’m horrible” or “I’m sick” or “I’m sad” they always respond “That’s nice” or “Great! Glad to hear it!” The exact same answer that I get if I say “I’m great!”

Don’t get me wrong – I am not the type of person to tell people that I’m “horrible” or “sick” or “sad” unless they are very close friends or family. (But they would usually respond the same way anyhow.) But I recently decided to do an experiment and actually say those things that would indicate that I was not well. Just to see if anyone was paying attention. I must have given that type of answer to about a dozen people two weeks. And not one single person noticed! They all were expecting me to say that I was “fine.” They weren’t listening at all!

But last week, as part of that exact same experiment, when someone said “how are you?” If I responded, with great enthusiasm and excitement “I’m FANTASTIC!” they all were taken aback and shocked! What do you think that says about us, as a society?

Labor Day is bittersweet

Labor Day (free clip art)

Labor Day (free clip art)

For me, Labor Day is a bittersweet holiday. Don’t get me wrong – I love any holiday that gets me the day off from work or school! The reason that it is bittersweet is that it seems to tell me, more than any other holiday, how quickly time is passing by, and how short our lives are. The day marks the end of summer to me – and I realize that I have, once again, failed to go and do and see everything that I wanted to go and do and see. The holiday makes me feel like I have failed my family, and I hate that feeling. I know that it will not be very long before all of those missed opportunities will torment me. In fact, they already do!

Labor Day is bittersweet.

Good party music

party (free clip art)

party (free clip art)

Our neighbors across the street just invited us to come to their big “end of the summer” party this weekend. They have hired a professional dj and are having a pot-luck cook-out in their front yard. Every year these neighbors have a big “end of the summer” party, and they invite us every year. We’ve never actually attended the party, but we do enjoy listening to the great music while we sit on our front porch after dinner. I think this year I’d like to go over for a bit if I can muster up the energy to go over!

Take a Fun Break

We were talking at work about our co-workers who are always taking smoke breaks. Some of these guys are taking a 10 minute break to go outside and smoke almost every hour. Since they cannot smoke in the showroom, they have to go stand outside. But all that time outside adds up. If they spend 10-15 minutes of every hour smoking, that is almost a full two hours total of the day that they are not working while the rest of us are still inside at our desks working. How do they get to goof off so much while I still have to slave away at my desk?

So I’ve decided to start taking a few smoke breaks, too. Even though I don’t smoke, I want to be able to take 10 minutes every once in a while during the work day to clear my mind and do something that I enjoy. After all, that is what the guys are doing. It is too hot to stand around outside for 10 minutes, so I am going to close the door to my office and not take phone calls for two “smoke breaks” every day.

Instead of smoking, I will be finding something fun to do on my computer. There are free games and things I can download that only take a few minutes. Like the Foxybingo web site that I found this morning – that is a perfect diversion. I can sit at my desk in air conditioned comfort, no one can see in my office to know what I am doing, and I can log in to the Foxybingo site and play a few games to relax.

It will be nice to have a little diversion each morning and a nice pick me up in the afternoon. I think a few games will help put me in a good mood and I won’t be poisoning my lungs by sucking smoke into my lungs. When I have a happy attitude I feel like the customers can tell and that they are easier to deal with. If they are easier to deal with, then we are all happier and we all benefit.